Apparently, a conversation recently took place at our gym about the so called, “Do List” and who makes/does not make the “Do List” of the college guys who currently hog the weight machines. In short, my single friend made the “Do List.” My fellow mom friend and I did not. This was pointed out to us by an older male friend who explained that we didn’t make the “Do List” not because of looks, but because we’re moms.
Obviously, the “Do List” is not an actual list, but more of an off handed, somewhat off color, comment made in passing. “Yeah, I’d do her.” “No way I’d do her.” “I’d do her AND her friend.” But, it’s okay sweaty college boys. You’re not on my “Do List” either.
But, really, why do some moms surrender their hotness just because they popped out a child? For your consideration, two non-hot mom examples:
1. My friend Jess who, immediately upon getting married, cut off her long wavy hair into a short, practically shaved haircut with frighteningly feathered bangs and
2. The end of the movie “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2” when Jennie and Hermione both not only have conservative mom haircuts, but also conservative mom purses.
Look, being pregnant isn’t fun. You waddle. You gain weight. Your nose spreads out further than you think is even remotely possible. Heck, when I’m pregnant I lose all sense of creativity and find even lazier ways to be lazy. But pregnancy doesn’t last forever; eventually that child is going to come out.
So, why do some moms give up cuteness to be a parent?
I’ve determined it has to boil down to the exhaustion factor. I have a two year old and a four month old. I’m perpetually tired. If it wasn’t for coffee, chances are I’d be falling asleep at my desk. And let’s be honest, I’m pushing 30. It’s not like when I was in college and could throw on sweats as I strolled out the door to class—and still look amazing. These days, because my life is centered around my kids, it does take a marked effort to keep cute. There isn’t time to go shopping; there isn’t time to put in contacts instead of glasses. Baby screaming? Eye shadow has to wait; I’ll have to make do with simply eyeliner.
But please, just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I’m not hot.
Darn it, I’ve worked my tail off to stay hot. I work out, I diet—after two kids, I weigh less and look better than I did in high school! College even! And with age (eeeeeggggh) comes confidence and, really, confidence is beautiful. You don’t need to be a douche-y college boy to make me feel like a million bucks. Not on your “Do List?” Really? That’s fine by me.
Fellow moms, I understand how hard it is sometimes. But the preconceived notion that being a mom isn’t hot is totally off the mark. You can still be beautiful without being boring. You can take your kids to their first day of wizard school and wear amazing shoes and carry a killer purse. It may not be as easy as it used to be, but we should never let the title “Mom” equate with “Mediocre.”
Let’s be gorgeous ladies. We deserve it.